Even The Sky Cries

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She couldn’t stop herself, and truth be told, she was glad for it. Even if they looked at the one tear rolling down her cheek with disdain. “You can cry all you want, but it doesn’t really matter,” they said.

Her eyes narrowed, and the light from above glinted  like fire. “One tear is all I want? really? You underestimate me. I don’t cry. ” she replied, her voice both steely and breaking.

Even if she wanted to. Even if she felt her heart being stabbed over and over by a mindless sword that didn’t care if it was beating and feeling still. 

Well. It would feel no more. 

Excuse her for breathing. 

Storytime: Once upon a time, a long long time ago, my siblings and I watched this movie called Song of The Sea.

See the source imageThis amazing beautiful sweet story, which I’d love to talk about another time, is about a great many things. But in it, the MC meets an old owl (the bad guy) who takes away emotions so that they don’t feel. Consequently turning the people whose emotions are suddenly drained, into rocks.

Bad right? But it turns out the bird’s just trying to help. See, her son lost a lover (or something like that, don’t ask me) and he cried so much he filled an ocean with his tears. (Again, don’t ask me, it’s animation, anything’s possible.) So to relieve his pain, his mom, who happens to be the weird owl, took away his ability to feel. She offers that same choice to the MC, saying that feelings are baggage and they hurt and stuff like that. But the obvious problem is that when you don’t feel, you become hard and well, very similar to a rock. Dead. Cold. Unfeeling. You know the type.

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Next case in point:

If you’ve ever watched Inside Out, and seen those very confusing little animated emotions try to manage their human, there’s always one who’s trying to manage everyone else, isn’t there? And that would be.. Joy.

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This bean. 

 

She’s kinda a lot like the owl from the first movie, except instead of locking up all emotions and bottling it away, Joy (the sweet naïve personified emotion) tries to make sure her human only feels happiness. All of her coworkers agree- except maybe Sadness. Because she’s too busy being sad. And in Joy’s little head, NOBODY needs Sadness. Sadness is a burden, the emotion you need to push away. Right?

Mm…no. Just no.

I know Song Of The Sea and Inside Out are only movies, but the thing is they kinda have a point. The same point this post has (*gasp* it actually does!): Happiness is not the only emotion you have to feel, and you can’t just bottle up your emotions, neither.

You need to let yourself feel Sadness sometimes. Or Fear. Or Anger. And hey, this isn’t just movie characters- (going preachy, sorry about that) a ton of people from the Bible are recorded to have more emotions that just happiness.

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Read the Psalms. Some of David’s writings are brimming with sadness and pain and guilt.

Elijah had to run for his life from Jezebel and wanted to die on a number of occasions.

Paul mentions the Corinthians being in sorrow because of what he said.

Jesus was so mad at the priests turning the temple into a marketplace, He overthrew the tables.

Also, Jesus wept at Lazarus’ tomb.

Want me to say it again?

The Son of Man, the Son of God, the Savior of the world, the KING, wept at the tomb of his friend.

Wept.

Down with that “big boys don’t cry” now, okay? It’s wrong and not true. Thanky ‘ou.

Why did Jesus cry? Weep? Even though he knew that he would raise Lazarus from the grave? I don’t really know. And if anyone does know, please tell me. XD My point is, Jesus Himself felt sadness.

Which is weird, considering Paul (at least I think it was, those NT writers sometimes sound similar) told us, “Rejoice, and again I say rejoice!”

How can you have joy when you feel sadness?

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Maybe…  because joy does not equal happiness.

People have written books about it, and songs and plays and have spent their whole lives trying to find it, but the actual working definition seems to be elusive. Sometimes you can find joy even in the hardest circumstances. Sometimes it’s easy to find it. Sometimes you can’t be brought down because you have it, and sometimes the world comes crashing down and you can still have it.

Joy comes from the only true and lasting source: God. Everything else fades eventually. And God isn’t just there for your joy, He comforts in sorrow and in grief, He forgives you and helps your guilt, it’s not like once you’re a Christian you’ll be a hundred percent happy. Just that whatever you’re going through, you can draw your strength from Him. 🙂

I could be wrong (well, not about where joy comes from). Don’t ask me for advice on anything, and don’t take whatever you read here as truth. But that’s what it seems to be like. And I’d know.

See, I’m one of those rock people. Many times I’ve wished that I couldn’t feel, it hurt too much and I didn’t like it. I forced myself to be dead to anything remotely sad, just because I couldn’t handle it.

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Still kinda struggling with it, to be honest. By the time my wish came true, I’d already had a thick shell I didn’t want anyone to touch. A tough face. A comeback for every insult.

Yeah, don’t try that.. it’s just… kinda..don’t.

What I eventually learned? Those walls only keep you in. Sadness hurts. And sometimes letting it out can help. If you keep it in, it’ll fester.. kinda like a nasty blister. It hurts to feel. But it hurts more to not feel. Even if it’s only joy you’re trying to feel.

Why did I take almost a thousands words to say this, I don’t know. But I guess what I’m trying to say is: It’s okay to cry. No, you shouldn’t be driven by your emotions and have a sobbing party every other Wednesday afterevening because someone hurt your feelings, but you can’t go to the other extreme and bottle all those feelings up and toss ’em away.  Reach out to someone who might really need a friend. Let your heart beat again. Let go of the idea that you’re not strong if you cry. It takes great strength for a person to share their feelings. Even Jesus cried.

Even the sky cries.

life is a highway, Jo

 

 

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Things To Do On A Rainy Afternoon

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Rain, rain, go away, come again another day.

As a child,I would repeat that catchy phrase for minutes on end, watching the rain drip and hit the window. It’s raining now, but time has long disproved whatever merit I used to believe the words had.

Rainy days are stay-inside days. But, as my mom always points out, that doesn’t mean you have to mope around and do nothing! Idle minds aren’t much good to anybody, especially you.  So, to beat the boredom, here are some good ways to pass the time.

 

Reading

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There’s nothing quite like cracking open a good book while hearing the pitter- patter of the rain! Try the books pictured for starters. You’ll be surprised at how absorbed you’ll be into the great world of books! Think reading is boring? Believe it or not, if you’re reading these words, you are reading! See how fun it is? 😀

 

Art

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Rainy days are great for sharpening up those pencils and drawing! You can go for a complex connect-the-dot, like I do, or try your hand at still life, or make some ATCs (Artist Trading Cards)!

Below is a feeble attempt to make an ATC. Perhaps you can draw one better!

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Writing

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Some people (like myself) find that their creativity is favorably used by writing. The plots, the world building, the character profiles are what really makes them smile. Well, if you have a love of writing, what better time to put on the writing cap than on a rainy day? Or maybe you’re more of a pen pal person. Then a rainy day’s a great time to fill your pen pal in on what you’re up to! Of course, you should be sure you finished your…

 

Homework

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Now, this is usually the damper on all of the fun activities that were just listed above. Isn’t homework what’s known as boring? But if you don’t have anything else to do, why not clear a few assignments? Algebra isn’t the most thrilling thing ever, but hey! You’re getting work done, and that’s a good thing.

(Remind me to take my own advice someday!)

Photo Albums

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Sometimes, rainy days tend to make us reminisce a little. (Oh hey, I spelled that right!) A great way to spend time is by flipping through old albums and pictures. An even better way is to do it with your family, especially grandparents! They can tell a story for almost every picture in the album, and you may unearth fascinating tales you had no idea existed, just by looking at a photo album.

 

Blogging

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Ah, blogging. I think we can all agree that’s a great way to spend a rainy afternoon. (That’s what I’m doing just now, it happens!) The click of the keyboard as you type your thoughts is a lovely sound. Provided, of course, you have done your homework and don’t hang around too long. Who knew reading the Reader could take up to hours at a time? Then it would be time for-

Music! 

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Music is a beautiful, beautiful art. Rainy days seem to call for music to cheer up its gray skies and deep, brooding clouds. If you play an instrument, say a violin, or a guitar, now’s a good time to practice the scales, wouldn’t you agree? Or if you’re a listener type, crank up the speakers and play something cheerful! Either way, music can and does lighten a rainy day.

Photography

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Well, being an amateur photographer, I may be just a tad bit biased with this. However, rainy days can be fun photo ops! Try new angles around your house, or go out in the rain and take pictures, if you dare! You just might take a special picture. Need motivation? How about joining Lydia’s photography challenge to start?

 

Chores

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“What??” you cry. “Chores isn’t fun! Or a boredom buster! Why would you put this in?”

I asked myself the same question for about 10 minutes when I figured out the answer. And the answer is that you have to do chores anyway, so you may as well do them when it’s boring, so you can have time to do all the fun stuff I mentioned after! Am I smart, or am I smart?

All kidding aside, your pitching in to help can make your family’s jobs easier, and the work gets finished when everybody works!

Radio

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Now, you see, this is what we hurry through our chores for: listening to the radio! (Well, unless you only listen to the radio when you’re in the car or shopping at the mall) Back in the old days, you know, when there was no TV or internet or laptops or WordPress (gasp!), people listened to radio shows. Even though we have all these ultra modern tools, radio shows still aren’t gone. So, why don’t you take an exercise in your hearing this rainy day and listen to a good old radio show? How about Adventures In Odyssey? An excellent thing for a rainy day, I assure you.

Board Games

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One might contend that board games are ‘bo-red games’ and thus are not worth playing. Well, said person must not have experienced the thrill of forming a word in Scrabble or beating a foe in chess! Try one when you’ve got nothing to do, won’t you? It’s a great thing when you’re stuck inside the house with say, 4 other people.

 

Phone Calls

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Often the case is that our loved ones are far away from us, too far to greet them in person. Well, why not give them a phone call? Chatting is a good way of catching up with folks, but be warned, it can take up time. Quickly. Good thing it’s time spent with friends!

I hope you’ve enjoyed this list of things to do on a rainy day! If so, please tell me so! And if not, please tell me so anyway! Either way I’ll get comments, right? 😉

Have a lovely day. Thanks for reading.